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Most countries and communities have emergency plans in place, but the earthquakes and tsunamis in Japan and their far-reaching effects on the rest of the world are natural disasters on such a large scale that they were impossible to plan for. Japan, and the other areas affected, will have to accept help from many different countries and organizations in order to provide what is needed for the survivors and to make the cities habitable again.
Perhaps that is the silver lining in this cloud of disaster…perhaps, as Dr. Robert Schuller used to say, this is an opportunity for heroes to step up to turn “scars into stars”…a chance for neighbor to help neighbor and people who don’t know each other to become friends.
Friendship is my theme for this coming week…and my movie pick today is “VIVA CUBA”…a past winner of the Cannes Film Festival.
In VIVA CUBA, we have a modern-day Romeo and Juliet. Filmed in Cuba, the 2005 movie is in Spanish, with English subtitles. It tells the story of Malu, a young girl from an upper-class family and Jorgito, a boy whose parents are poor socialists, but proud of their family’s social standing.
When her mother decides to leave Cuba, Malu and Jorgita run away, trying to reach the other side of the island where Malu’s father lives. They hope that he will refuse to grant permission for Malu and her mother to leave Cuba, therefore enabling Malu and Jorgito to remain friends. When the children and all the parents are finally together however, the parents use the opportunity to continue arguing and fighting, ignoring the children and their concerns.
The film won 34 national and international awards and explores the question of emigration and the effects on children who have to leave friends and extended family behind. I don’t think this is a “family” movie…but it is definitely a movie for parents. In my opinion, this was the ultimate movie about friendship…but I think it is also a film with a wake-up call to parents who are separated, divorced or just not getting along. When children are involved, we need to make them aware of what is going on (they already know much more than you think) and give them the opportunity to voice their questions and concerns.
We need to encourage our children are to offer their opinions and voice their questions and concerns without the fear of being judged or yelled at. This builds their self-esteem and enables them to feel comfortable coming to us with their problems. For 99 other gentle parenting tips like this one, please check out my new book, now on sale for HALF-PRICE on my website. When you purchase a copy of the book, you are 
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VIVIAN KIRKFIELD - Writer for Children 