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Last night, my husband and I watched “PLAYING THE GAME”, a 2009 romantic comedy starring Andy Griffith as an 80+ year-old grandpa who has recently lost his beloved wife and is now living in an assisted-living facility. Paul Campbell plays his concerned grandson, a player of women who wants his grandfather to start enjoying life again. When Paul meets Maria Sokoloff, his player days are numbered and when Andy meets Doris Roberts (of Everybody Loves Raymond fame), a resident of his senior home and grandmother of Maria, he finds a new reason to live again.
Some people may be offended by the sexual scenes (you never really “see” anything) and by the blatant sexual desires of some of the “older” folks (and some may be sad to see Andy Griffith, icon of morality in the Mayberry RFD series, taking Viagra and enjoying the sexual favors of one of the older women at the home for seniors)…but I think it was a realistic depiction of how life is for some elderly people…defined in their youth by sexuality, they feel if they can’t “perform”, then life is not worth living.
Andy Griffith does provide some wonderful advice to his grandson…advice we might all benefit from:
- Defining a “real” companion, he says, “You’ll know when you meet her and you’ll know when you lose her.”
- Asking his grandson about his relationship with his love interest, he says, “Are you a player or were you just playing.”
- Telling his grandson to stop his step-by-step procedure that gets women to fall for him, he says, “To win the game of love, you have to stop playing games with women.”
If you are looking for a light-hearted romantic comedy and won’t be turned off by seeing some elderly people looking forward to sexual pursuits, PLAYING THE GAME is for you.
The movie also highlighted how we need to pursue our dreams and goals and not get sidetracked by just “working for the money”. The grandson had put aside his dream of working in the health-care field and was earning a LOT of money, selling cars in his father’s dealership…but he was very unhappy and hated what he was doing. When he becomes involved with Maria, he realizes that he needs to quit his job and go back to helping people. How many of us put our dreams aside because of money…either because we don’t think we have enough for our needs or we just think we need more?
This past Thursday, I met with two 4th grade students who wanted to “job shadow” an author…the advice I gave them was to follow their dream and never give up on what they believed in…hard work and persistence do translate into success! During my years as a teacher, daycare provider and mom, I accumulated lots of ideas and experience…and I was able to use those when I finally wrote my book last year for parents and teachers of preschoolers. If you are interested in picking up a copy of this unique resource of picture book suggestions and easy fun-filled educational activities, please visit my website at www.positiveparentalparticipation.com where you can take advantage of the half-price sale and enter to win a GREAT PRIZE for your preschooler.
I hope you’ll stop by tomorrow for Make-A-Meal Monday. Based on today’s movie pick, our theme for the week is Companionship.
We all know that it is important to “stay in shape”.
But, what does that mean…and how can we accomplish that?
One of the most important factors in staying in shape is to exercise on a regular basis. I’m not sure that is matters exactly what you do…you could walk, jog, run, swim, play tennis, do aerobics…the list is endless.
What matters is that you DO IT ON A REGULAR BASIS!
The dictionary defines “habit” as:
- A regularly repeated behavior pattern
- An action or pattern of behavior that is repeated so often that it becomes typical of somebody
- A recurrent, often unconscious pattern of behavior that is acquired through frequent repetition.
Throughout our lives, we deal with many habits…making them and then, if they are “bad ones” breaking them…like biting nails, curling hair, smoking.
So why not make it a habit to exercise on a daily basis…if you do it often enough, it will become an unconscious pattern of behavior for you.
How much time do you need to devote to establishing this new habit?
This really depends on your state of health right now…but, just 15 minutes a day can bring great benefits to you.
Just 15 minutes a day…take a walk around the block.
Just 15 minutes a day…dance to some favorite tunes.
Just 15 minutes a day…the possibilities are endless…just keep in mind how limber you are now and don’t push yourself to the point of pain or discomfort.
Maybe you can make this a habit also. 🙂 If you are looking for story suggestions or educational fun-filled activities, please check out my book. There is a great half-price sale going on right now with a bonus prize…no purchase necessary to enter. http://www.positiveparentalparticipation.com
Please stop by tomorrow for Follow-Me-Fridays: Where’s Miss Vivian? The kindergarten children at Taylor School loved Katy and the Big Snow!
I know I feel out-of-sorts when I haven’t had a good night’s sleep. And I had heard (thought it was a rumor) that lack of sleep could cause weight gain.
Tonight, one of our local TV stations ran a special report on kids who get too little sleep being at risk for obesity and diabetes.
So I did a little research and found that studies have shown that “insufficient nighttime sleep among infants and preschool-aged children appears to be a lasting risk factor for subsequent obesity.” (WebMD Health News) http://children.webmd.com/news/20100907/sleep-linked-to-childhood-obesity
I’m always blaming fast food, super-sized meals and lack of exercise on the increase our country is seeing in childhood obesity and juvenile diabetes. But, now it seems that we can add another villain to the mix.
And that is one more reason to set up those bedtime routines for your children…and STICK to them. One of the pediatricians on the TV report had several suggestions:
- Bedtime should be the SAME time EVERY night for your child.
- Wind down 30 to 60 minutes before bedtime.
- Children should be getting 9 to 10 hours of sleep every night.
- If you are missing an hour or two of sleep for the week, you can catch up on some sleep on the weekends.
You can refer back to yesterday’s post about bedtime routines for more tips. https://viviankirkfield.wordpress.com/2011/01/24/bedtime-routines-rituals-and-can-i-have-one-more-glass-of-water-please/
In that post, I suggested you read CORNELIUS P. MUD, ARE YOU READY FOR BED? with your child and I provided a recipe for Overnight Cookies. Bedtime is a very special time for young children, but without routines and limits, many try to delay going to bed as much as possible. I promised to give you a simple craft project that may encourage good bedtime routines. With your help, your child can “set” his clock to the particular time when he will need to be ready for his bedtime story. Then he can check that time against the real clocks in the house and will know when he has to complete his toy cleanup in order to be ready for that special treat…the bedtime story.
NO TICK-TOCK CLOCK
You will need: A piece of cardboard (from a cereal box would be fine), metal paper fastener, construction paper, marker and scissors.
- Cut a large circle (the clock face) from the cardboard.
- Cut two “hands” (one longer and narrower than the other) from the construction paper.
- Attach the hands to the center of the clock with the paper fastener.
- Draw the numbers in the correct order on the clock face.
Parents…keep in mind that if you’ve been trying to lose a few pounds yourselves (as I have been), perhaps getting a good night’s sleep on a regular basis may do as much for you as cutting back on calories and exercising. In fact, if you treat all three elements…restful sleep, nutrition (not diet) and exercise with respect, you may be rewarded with better health than you ever had before. Believe me, I know how difficult it is to call it quits for the night…there always seems to be something else that MUST be done…laundry folded, dishes put away, lunches made for the next day, bills to pay and checkbook to balance…the list goes on and on. This is another reason that making lists of short and long-term goals as well as a daily to-do will help organize and prioritize what needs to be done.
P.S. This post somehow got put in drafts and didn’t get posted on Tuesday…sorry. 🙂
Stop by tomorrow for a look at a very special lady…my grandmother…she was a role model for Positive Parental Participation in an era before spending quality time with your children was a catch-phrase.