Steinbrenner – Parenting: Where’s the Connection?

Today I read about the death of  George Steinbrenner, principal owner and managing partner of the New York Yankees. 

Although many may have disagreed with his controversial policies and decisions, I think most people would say he devoted his life to his team, even those players and managers who were fined and fired (and often rehired) at his direction.

He led the Yankees to 11 Pennants and 7 World Series titles.  He was tough on his players, instituting a ban on most facial hair, and he insisted that all players, coaches and executives keep their hair trimmed to collar-length at most.  He negotiated for higher salaries for his team.  He was definitely a hands-on owner.

So, why do I say there is a connection between George Steinbrenner and parenting?

Let’s look at a list of some of the key phrases that we could use to describe him:

  • Devoted his life to his team
  • Led his team to victory many times
  • Tough on his players
  • Instituted controversial policies and made decisions not always approved of by team members
  • Was a hands-on owner involved in the day-to-day workings of the team

George Steinbrenner’s style of “parenting” his team is probably NOT the one that you or I would want to use for our children.  However, most good parents:

  • Make many decisions that are not always approved of by their children. 
  • Have times when they need to be tough on their children. 
  •  Devote a good part of their lives to raising their children the best way they know how. 
  • Encourage their children to master tasks and skills  and celebrate each victory they experience.
  • Are hands-on parents. 

Perhaps the biggest difference was that George Steinbrenner did not embrace the “POSITIVE parental participation” philosophy.  Maybe if he had, the media would have been kinder to him.

Clutter: My nemesis…is it yours?

We just got back from the carpet store.  Our downstairs carpeting is in BAD shape and so we took the plunge and ordered a new one (made of recycled soda bottles). 

From where I stand (on a worn-out rug) this is a WIN-WIN situation for me.  First of all, we will have beautiful new flooring.  Secondly, in order to have the carpeting installed, the furniture in the rooms will have to be moved by the installers.  In order for them to be able to move the stuff, I have to empty every bookcase, cabinet and clear off every surface of anything and everything in the rooms that has to be moved.

Now, you might think this is a big job, boxing up hundreds of books and photos in frames and all the other STUFF that somehow accumulates as we journey through this life.  And, you would be right!  However, it will also be an opportunity to go through EVERYTHING.  The question is, will I be able to toss or give away some of the STUFF, so that the house will be less cluttered.

I truly believe that clutter increases stress in one’s life.  What do you think?  I’ve always wished my home could be neat and organized so that if company came, you could open a closet and STUFF wouldn’t fall on you.  Or, you could open a drawer and wouldn’t have to push the STUFF back in so that you could close the drawer again. 

When my children were little, I had an excuse…I wanted to save EVERYTHING that they created…every picture and craft project.  I know it is really difficult to be organized with young children…but if you can be, it makes life so much more simple.  No running around the house 5 minutes before the school bus arrives, looking for a missing shoe.  No wasting precious hours searching for the car keys that are hiding under several layers of papers on the table instead of hanging up on a key holder.

I’ve read quite a few “how to get rid of clutter” books…right now they are on the bookshelves…soon to be boxed up with the rest of the STUFF.  Getting rid of clutter (and staying rid of it) is a mind-set one must acquire.

 Wish me luck!

Best job: work from home or not?

I was going through the fridge and freezer this morning, chucking “out-of-date half-eaten yogurt containers and planning next week’s meals based on stuff that needs to be used up.

It hit me how much less time I have, working outside the home as compared to when I worked from my home.

Years ago when my own children were young, instead of returning to my position as a kindergarten teacher, I had decided to operate a home daycare.

I guess I had a well-ordered schedule with established routines for the children as well as for myself.  In addition to my own 3 children (1 was in 3rd grade, 1 starting kindergarten and my youngest was only 10 months old), I took care of 5 teacher’s children (ages 8 months to 4 years) every day.  I also had a lovely kitchen garden in season and shelves of canned and preserved fruits, veggies and jams.  I baked bread with the children at least twice a week (they each got their own piece of dough to knead, bake and take home to share with their families…in tomorrow’s blog I’ll include the BEST bread recipe ever…at least my children always thought so).  I never bought a Christmas or birthday gift…I crafted everything.

Now, although I only work 3 days a week outside my house, my children are grown with families of their own, and I’ve traded my hat as daycare provider for that of writer of parenting and children’s picture books, I find I have LESS time than before.  Is it that I am older and have less energy?  Am I less organized than I was before?  Or does life become more complicated even though it seems it should be more simple.

I know it is different for everyone…each person’s situation and personality dictate how they feel about working from home or outside the home.

What is your experience?  Better to work at home?  Or better to work outside the home?