Happy Mother’s Day: #50PreciousWordsforKids – Here Are Their Stories Plus a Giveaway

Happy Mother’s Day! I decided to share the #50PreciousWordsforKids stories on this special day – kind of a gift to all the moms out there.


What a thrill to receive so many amazing stories! I loved reading all of their precious words. And what is so astonishing, is that Continue reading

Happy Mother’s Day!


Sunday Post: Mother's Day

Happy Mother’s Day to every woman who has eveR held a baby or read to a child or sat white-knuckled in the passenger seat as her teenage son or daughter took the wheel of the family car for the first time. Happy Mother’s Day to every mom, grandmother, auntie, teacher, daycare provider or counselor who has held a child’s hand and offered love, encouragement, a shoulder to cry on and an ear to listen.

Should You Write to Your Kids?


My mother was a stay-at-home mom in the 50’s and 60’s..the days of Father-Knows-Best and Leave it to Beaver. She was Continue reading

To Write Or Not To Write: Letters To My Kids

Should You Write to Your Kids?

In honor of Father’s Day (which is next Sunday, June 16), I was asked to contribute to Bob Brody’s Letters to My Kids blog.

Bob is passionate about encouraging parents to write letters to their kids to share family stories…this helps kids gain a sense of self-worth and a stronger parent-child bond.

Here is the link for the Father’s Day post: http://letterstomykidsdotorg.wordpress.com/2013/06/10/fathers-day-guest-columnist-vivian-kirkfield-never-enough-but-always-plenty/

I also participated on Bob’s blog for Mother’s Day and wrote a letter to my children about my own mother: http://letterstomykidsdotorg.wordpress.com/2013/05/24/guest-columnist-vivian-kirkfield-the-grandmother-you-hardly-knew/

When and what should parents write letters to their kids?

  • On holidays or special occasions
  • Anytime
  • To share your own childhood experiences
  • To share things that happened when they were very young
  • To relate interesting family stories
  • To say I’m sorry
  • To congratulate them on an accomplishment or goal reached

Many years ago, when my children were very young and they wanted to give me a gift for a birthday or other special time, I would tell them, “Write me a love letter!” Those letters and cards that they made themselves are still tucked away carefully and treasured by me. When your children give you a gift like that, it will outlast any box of candy, bouquet of flowers or trinket they might find at the store.

Sunday Post: Mother’s Day

Jake at Time after Time has a Sunday Post Challenge…today’s theme, very appropriately, is MOTHER’S DAY.

Sunday Post: Mother's Day


Sunday Post: Mother's Day

Here are some flowers!

Sunday Post: Mother's day

And some chocolates!

          ”When you are a mother, you are never really alone in your thoughts.  A mother always has to think twice, once for herself and once for her child.”  ~Sophia Loren, Women and Beauty

And a quote!

Here are several articles from around the internet that you might enjoy: Continue reading

It’s Mother’s Day No Matter Where You Are

I thought I would wait till I got home from my trip to Chicago to post something about Mother’s Day.

But then I realized that I wanted to wish moms (and grandmoms and all those who take the place of mom at one moment or another in the life of your child) a very Happy Mother’s Day.

So this will be a short post, because my son and daughter-in-law are waiting for me…it is a glorious day here in Chicago and we are going for a walk down to the lake.

My trip thus far has been picture perfect…met with the owner of Lollie’s and she is going to offer my book for sale at her children’s boutique in Evanston (more about that another day).

I went downtown with my son yesterday and we enjoyed an oil and balsamic vinegar tasting.

We drove to Downer’s Grove and had an awesome afternoon and evening with family.  My niece has two children and the tributes they made for their mom were so very sweet.

I’m looking forward to the next few days…sushi dinner and an evening of bowling are on the agenda.

And I’m sending the best of all Mother’s Day wishes to every mom and I’m sharing the flowers I got from my daughter in New Hampshire!

Please stop by next week for photos of this great Mother’s Day weekend.

Follow-Me-Fridays: Where’s Miss Vivian?

Interesting Story

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Yesterday I enjoyed my last Show-Me-How Story-time presentation of this school year at Queen Palmer Elementary School in Colorado Springs.  I did two programs…the first teacher had picked Cornelius P. Mud, Are You Ready for Bed by Barney Saltzberg.  What child doesn’t want to hear about a silly pig that has a unique idea of how one should get ready for bed.  The children chuckled when they saw how Cornelius brushed his teeth with a body brush and soap.  They were horrified when Cornelius fed his fish chocolate chip cookies.  They counted the number of books Cornelius had picked for his father to read to him…19 books, they said, NO WAY!  After the story, all of the children made construction paper clocks with movable hands and were excited to be able to take them home to show their parents how they could tell time.  The second teacher had chosen Frederick by Leo Lionni.  The children in that class loved hearing about the little mouse that collected sun rays, colors and words while his family collected nuts, seeds and wheat.  I believe the children understand the lessons behind Mr. Lionni’s story…we need to celebrate the uniqueness of each individual, and every member of the family (even young children) contributes in his or her own special way.  Do you celebrate your child’s uniqueness?  Many of the activities in my book focus on celebrating a child’s unique gifts and talents. 

The teachers loved the book and one of them is going to request that the school obtain copies for the kindergarten classes…she commented that teachers are so busy (just like parents) and would appreciate a resource like Show Me How! because it just about provides 100 lesson plans…complete with story suggestion, arts and crafts project and a simple cooking activity (and many of these are no-cook)!

As many of you read this, I’ll be winging my way from Colorado Springs to Chicago.

I’ll be spending the Mother’s Day weekend with my son and his wife.

Since we all LOVE eating sushi, taking long walks around the lake, watching classic foreign films and being with one another, I know I will have a great time.

My daughter-in-law (the talented artist who designed and drew the cover for my book) is picking me up at the airport.   She’ll be taking me to Evanston, a suburb of Chicago, where I’ll be meeting with the owner of Lollie’s, a beautiful children’s boutique.  Alexis has already read Show Me How!  Build Your Child’s Self-Esteem Through Reading, Crafting and Cooking and is interested in offering it for sale in her shop.  I’m really excited about that!  My hope is that indie bookstores and shops across the country will carry the book to make it more accessible to parents and teachers.  Several libraries in various states have also purchased the book for their collections…if you are not in a position to buy the book, why not ask your local library to purchase copies…many libraries welcome suggestions from patrons regarding future book purchases.   If you feel the book would be a valuable resource for your community, let your library know!

The rest of my time in Chicago will be spent having fun and also connecting with my sister and her sons and their families, all who live in and around the Chicago area. 

So, I may not be able to post in the next few days…but I’ll be back Tuesday afternoon and am eagerly looking forward to my first featured author guest post with Colorado Springs award winning author, Rebecca Dunning.

Also, a quick reminder about the Mother’s Day bonus offer that ends May 8 on my website.   If you purchase a copy of the book (at 20% off the cover price), you will also receive, with your order, a $10 Marshalls/TJMaxx gift card.  What a great deal…a wonderful resource of great fun-filled activities and story suggestions for you to use with your child and a gift card to stores that are overflowing with great stuff for mom…Happy Mother’s Day!

Making Blood Draws Easier for Kids: Healthy Habit Thursday

A female doctor examines a child.

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Do you like going for blood draws?

I don’t know about you, but it’s not my favorite activity.

In fact, I don’t think there are very many people who would look forward to that…unless you are a character in the Twilight series. 🙂

And if having blood drawn is unpleasant for most adults, imagine how little children feel about it!

In two weeks, I have an appointment to see my family doctor for my annual physical and he always wants me to have various lab tests done beforehand.   So, the other day, I went to Healthlink, one of Memorial Hospital’s outpatient lab facilities in Colorado Springs, to get my blood drawn. 

While sitting in the waiting room, I saw a notice hanging on the wall entitled, “Making Blood Draws Easier for Kids”.

After reading it, I spoke to the staff and asked if I could copy it and post it on my parenting blog because I knew that there must be many parents who would appreciate the information. 

They were happy to have me pass along these simple tips that may help parents whose children need to have blood drawn.

1.     Your attitude is contagious!  If you are tense, your child will get tense as well.

Be positive!

Be honest with your child that it might hurt!

Talk about where or what you are going to be doing when you leave!

2.     Your child could sit on your lap during the blood draw.

3.     You could stand behind him or her and give a shoulder rub during the draw.

4.     You could hold his or her other hand.

5.     You could tell his or her favorite story.

6.     You could leave the room…sometimes older kids would prefer this…it makes them feel grown up.

7.     When it is all over, tell your child that you are proud of him or her…no matter how he or she acted during the draw.

8.     Things NOT to say:

  • Don’t say it won’t hurt!
  • Don’t say just think of something else!
  • Don’t say just act like a big boy or girl!

As a parent, I appreciate how hard it is to see your child being stuck with a needle.  I applaud the Healthlink staff for their foresight in posting this notice to encourage parents to be positive and honest with their children.  If you have a child who needs to have blood drawn just once in a while for a particular test or on a regular basis because of some ongoing health problems, I hope these suggestions will be helpful.

Here’s another suggestion: Mother’s Day is only a few days away…and the long days of summer are just around the corner.  We are offering a special Mother’s Day bonus for anyone who purchases a copy of Show Me How! Build Your Child’s Self-Esteem Through Reading, Crafting and Cooking.  Get a copy of this wonderful resource, brimming with fun-filled educational activities for young children, and receive a $10 Marshalls/TJMaxx Gift Card for mom as a bonus.  Visit my website for the details.  Offer ends on May 8.

Please stop by tomorrow for Follow-Me-Fridays: Where’s Miss Vivian and find out about my visit at Queen Palmer School and my exciting plans for the Mother’s Day Weekend!